Dating Problems
Can Be Cause of Huge Stress!

As we grew up, our parents taught us not to sleep around. They did this out of fear of teenage pregnancies or sexually transmitted diseases or maybe it was for religious reasons. Whatever the reason, we grew up believing that premarital sex was some kind of forbidden fruit. I am no exception to this rule. In my world, sex, outside of marriage, was bad. The crazy thing is that most of us have parents who are guilty, themselves, of this behavior.

Now, don't get me wrong, I am not saying that it shouldn't have been this way. I am, merely, saying that when we moved into adulthood, the negative connotation around dating being all about sex never left us. As adults, we go on dates with the idea of forming romantic relationships instead of just finding ways to make new friends. No wonder we have dating problems.

I am sure we all remember the TV show called the Dating Game. The questions always had a sexual overtone. We join chat rooms that focus on dating. We run ads in the personals with the idea of finding blind dates and maybe forming romantic relationships. It's like some kind of adult challenge. If you're single, you have to be dating or there's something wrong with you. Or maybe we do it because we're terrified of ending up alone.

Sometimes we do it, because we've already been married once or in a long-term relationship once and it didn't work out and and so this time we want to be in total control. We want to be able to screen our dates before we go out with them.

Well, I know too many people who have been burned too many times by the dating game. We can all find that perfect someone, but the first step is to get to know yourself better.

A good second step will be to remove the sexual overtones from the situation and instead expose yourself to situations that allow for the development of new friends and then just let the rest happen naturally. A relationship will always be stronger when it is with someone, with whom we share common interests.

Just like any other wellness challenge, dating problems can be solved with increased knowledge and awareness and by making use of some effective tools and techniques.





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