20 'not so good' Stress Busters - are any of these you?
Need some stress busters to lighten your day? Here are 20 very weak stress management styles for your consideration. Hopefully, none of these
reflect your stress management style.
If they do, don't fear because there are many great articles on this website to help you learn a much better strategies for managing all your stress.
Quitter Stress Managers
- Don't follow through or they give up way too quickly. If it doesn't work the first time, they feel it probably never will. Never give themselves time to practice new stress management skills.
Impending Doom Stress Managers
- Blow things way out of proportion. Every stressor is like the end of the world.
Lovers and Dreamers Stress Managers
- Spend time saying “if only” or “I wish”, but they never get started.
Scarlet O'Hara Stress Managers
- Say, "I won’t think about that today, I’ll think about that tomorrow" just like the character in the famous 1939 movie, Gone with the Wind. They procrastinate endlessly.
Riding the Clutch Stress Managers
- Make things complicated, get bogged down in details, get caught up with semantics and stop and start all the time. One step forward and two steps back is their motto.
Super Hero Stress Managers
- Ride in a white horse with banners waving to solve others stress, but never solve their own stress. They want to save the day as long as they don't have to change anything about themselves.
Sigmund Freud Stress Managers
- Get lost in the process and in people’s feelings. They never get off the couch to make any progress with stopping stress in their own lives.
Operation N.O.W. Stress Managers
- Want to do it, do it, do it. NOWWWWW!!! These people never take a step back to look at the big picture of how stress affects them in their lives.
My Way or the Highway Stress Managers
- Have no flexibility or adaptability. They will not accept any advice from anyone... ever. Why would they? They already know everything.
Queen of Denial Stress Managers
- Say, "What do you mean? I don’t have any stress. What stress? I'm sure I don't know what you're talking about." Since they don't admit to even having stress, they never try out any new stress busters ever.
and let's not forget these ineffective stress busters either
Wine and Cheese Stress Managers
- Spend all their time whining about their stress, but never do anything about it.
Ping Pong Ball Stress Managers
- Have no focus and they are all over the map with far too many things on the go. The result is they never get anything finished.
Fire Starter Stress Managers
- Spend all their time creating stress and so never get around to managing any of it.
Hypochondriac Stress Managers
- Have a mountain of stress from every source imaginable.
Everything is stressful including relaxing activities like meditation or
attending a spa. Never start to manage any of it.
Smokey the Bear Stress Managers
- Run around putting out small fires, never make any progress in managing big stress.
Holier Than Thou Stress Managers
- Believe their stress is far more serious than any others' trifling stress.
Jack of All Trades Stress Managers
- Are skilled at using many different types of stress busters,
but since they spend all their time trying to learn new strategies,
they never get around to using any of them consistently.
Scatter Brain Stress Managers
- They can’t decide where to begin, so they flit around from stressor to stressor making little, if any, progress.
Hermit on the Hill Stress Managers
- Keep all stressors secret. Keep everything bottled up inside and never ask for any help ever.
Go Tell It on the Mountain Stress Managers
- Proclaim and announce their stress to the whole world. They ask for
advice from everyone and make a good show but they never put the advice
to any good use.
try these powerful stress busters instead
All in all, there are many ways to deal with stress, but in the end it often comes down to style and need.
If you use any or several of the ineffective stress busters listed above, you may need to make some changes before you can get good at stress management and achieve the stress relief you want... and deserve to have... in your life.
It will take serious introspection and if you don't take time to really examine your needs, you may not realize what stress management style is best for you.
And, you may not come to understand that you really need many different strategies to deal with all kinds of different stressors coming at you in many different situations.
might need a strategy for getting out frustrations physically, by getting some Endorphins pumping fast and furious. If so, having a small, portable, easy-to-install punching bag
may be just the ticket for solving intermittent stress.
WRITERS, ON THE OTHER HAND...
might want to take the time to create a conscientious detailing of their stressors in a stress buster journal
that comes with built in prompts.
AND THEN THERE'S EFT...,
also known as Emotional Freedom Techniques
, for people who need a comprehensive solution for releasing years of repressed emotion, solving sudden, overwhelming stressors or for taking care of serious illness and disease symptoms. In my opinion, there is no person on the planet who doesn't need to become an EFT master.
BACH FLOWER REMEDIES...
developed over 60 years ago by the English physician Edward Bach. Bach Flower Remedies
are 38 individual distilled flower essences, which are used to positively impact mental and emotional states. Here is a comprehensive manual
, to explain how this amazing system works.
Of course, the short list above is far from complete as there are well over a hundred empowering stress busters and stress therapies available to be tried.
Over the years, we have all developed our own ways to be stress busters and often, our strategies have been more reactive and defensive than they have been predictive, proactive or responsive.
But don't fear, because how we choose to become stress busters in our own lives never has to be written in stone. We can always learn and we can always get much better.
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